When I brought her home, she was afraid of the sun, wind, bubbles, animals, baby dolls, the park, swings, her highchair, exersaucer, and carseat. Now she's okay with all of them, and really likes to swing and ride in the car and sit in her highchair.
She's still terrified of water (bathtime is fun!) and grass.
Something about church also scares her. She's fine when we are there, but wakes up almost every hour EVERY Sunday night.
But mainly, she's afraid of me leaving. She screams everyday when I leave her at school. She's happy in a few minutes after I leave, but always cries when we get to her class in the morning. In public, she holds on to me as tightly as she can with one arm, then makes the rest of her body stiff so no one else can try to take her. If anyone asks to hold her, she tells them no (in Eden language it's a furious head shake and "AHNT!!" or "BUP!!"--her newest word for no). I usually have her in a sling or carrier so she feels more secure.
At home, though, she's soooooo happy!!! And at her Nana's house. The two places where she can completely be herself. Which is why I stay home a lot. And why we won't be joining the rest of my family at Disneyworld for Christmas. The more comfortable she is here, the more comfortable she is in other places. So we stay home. Because I love seeing her look like this:
Ella is similar in many ways, but mainly about new people and places. She is consumed by fear when we venture to other peoples homes or even if we have new people over to our house. She won't go to anyone (even has issues with close family) and insists on being in my arms almost the entire time others are around. I think over time this will get better, so for now we just keep her comfortable and feeling secure/safe.
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